My friend just showed me this blog, which to be honest I find completely hilarious and am now reading on a daily basis. It’s called I bang the worst dudes. (Sorry, Mom). The premise of the blog is that women send in horror stories, and sometimes photographs, of men that they’ve had sex with. While I was reading it today, I came upon this comment:
“funny site. but i wonder what the response to it would be if it were dudes uploading obscured pictures of girls’ faces and condescendingly listing their sexual inadequacies. i guess at least it’s refreshing to know that girls will apparently hump anything that moves.”
Setting aside the last sentance, it made me think. If there were sites run by men with this premise (as I’m sure there are plenty), I would be pretty pissed off about it. Yet I find this blog funny, because it reminds me of all the awkward sexual encounters I’ve experienced. It’s undeniable that this is sexist against men, just as a blog about the sexual inadequacy of women would be sexist against women. Which leaves me wondering which is worse – having the internet filled with websites discussing male sexual encounters with women and none of women’s sexual encounters with men, or allowing ourselves to sink down to the same level and posting/reading the same type of trash that men have been writing about women for ages. Obviously in an ideal world neither would happen, but this is clearly not Utopia. On the one hand, women should be allowed to express every emotion and aspect of desire as men do. On the other, I think that misandry is just as bad as misogyny and that women should not lower themselves to the level of misogynists in the name of equality between the sexes. I don’t have an answer to this question, and I’m sure that I’ll continue to read Sorry, Mom because it makes me laugh, but at least I won’t take it for granted as just humor anymore. What’re your thoughts?